11
March
2009
I was scanning my notes when a dirty-looking handwriting of mine catches my attention.[lol] That was all about one of the selection I’ve encounterred while having our review in english for the coming DAT entitled Why We Love Who We Love by Joyce Brothers. Some of the passages of that selection are as follows:
What mysterious force drives us into the arms of one person, while pushing us away from another who might appear equally desirable to any unbiased observer? Of the many factors influencing our idea of the perfect mate, one of the most telling, according to John Money, professor emeritus of medical psychology and pediatrics at Johns Hopkins University, is what he calls our ‘lovemap‘–a group of messages encoded in our brains that describes our likes and dislikes. It shows our preferences in hair and eye color, in voice, smell, body build. It also records the kind of personality that appeals to us, whether it’s the warm and friendly type or the strong, silent type.In short, we fall for and pursue those people who most clearly fit our lovemap. And this lovemap is largely determined in childhood. By age eight, the pattern for our ideal mate has already begun to float around in our brains.When we’re little, our mother is the center of our attention, and we are the center of hers. So our mother’s characteristics leave an indelible impression, and we are forever after attracted to people with her facial features, body type, personality, even sense of humor. If our mother was warm and giving, as adults we tend to be attracted to people who are warm and giving. If our mother was strong and even-tempered, we are going to be attracted to a fair-minded strength in our mates.Just as mothers influence their son’s general feelings toward women, fathers influence their daughter’s general feelings about men. If a father lavishes praise on his daughter and demonstrates that she is a worthwhile person, she’ll feel very good about herself in relation to men. But if the father is cold, critical or absent, the daughter will tend to feel she’s not very lovable or attractive.
What about opposites? Are they really attracted to each other? Yes and no. In many ways we want a mirror image of ourselves. Physically attractive people, for example, are usually drawn to a partner who’s equally attractive.
In addition, most of us grow up with people of similar social circumstances. We hang around with people in the same town; our friends have about the same educational backgrounds and career goals. We tend to be most comfortable with these people, and therefore we tend to link up with others whose families are often much like our own.
Cute right? Even I myself find it interesting that’s why I posted it here.. hehe.. But this doesn’t mean I’m taken, I’m the opposite of it.
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10
April
2008
After five nights of being out in the net world due to my trip, khat is fnally
back on track! Ala ako for five days `coz I’ve attended the Provincial
Encampment for Scouting. Aun, trip pa lang kakapagod nah. Ang daming nahilo at
sumuka sa trip buti nalang di ako kasama sa kanila.. xd. Sa sampung sumama sa
trip tatlo lang kaming di sumuka, oh dba?! what an achievement..! ahaha.
Pagdating nmin inayos agad nmen ang tent though ang init ng sikat ng araw..
Around 2pm the parade started, tas aun, opening program. Hmmn, some of the
activites during our stay in Dona Montserrat Lopez Memorial High School in Silay
city were tree planting, road safety awareness and accident prevention session,
cookfest, emergency preparedness, arts and craft, camp fire, tour and musical
extravaganza where our division ( San Carlos) won the bestcamp fire presentation
for the past three consecutive years already. Na-tour nila kami sa dalawang old
antique house dun sa Silay ang isa Balay Ni Grense tas ung isa naman nakalimutan
kew. lol. haha. On April 7th, our last night in Silay was the most excitingyet
the most terrifying night for me. Haha. Wonderin’ why?:-/ kasi po, ako ba naman
ang gawing emcee in the closing program together with my classmate. WTF!
Kakahiya un..! haha. Grabeh na xp para saken un. Imagine, kaw nag-eemcee from
the whole province of Negros, haha. Kakakaba pero exciting. Akalain mo un, nsa
likod mo ang Mayor ang Congressman ngSilay, oh geez.. harhar. Emma love it.! xd.
The closing program ended at past 10 na ata un but still our adrenalin is still
rushing. xd. Pumunta kasi ung mga nakilala naming mga new friends dun sa quarter
namen tas we had our `food trip`.. Ala sana kaming balak matulog if they didn’t
decided to go back to their quarters `coz their adviser asked them to do so.
Sayang, ang saya pa naman ng kwentuhan nmin.. haha. On the 8th of April naman,
we had our breakfast then our adviser tell us something about her past lovelife,
grabeh, she had a bf when she was in the college nah. Grabeh, bilib ako sa
kanya. Btw, while she is making some kwento to us, I noticed a van comg towards
our parking area then I asked our adviser if that was our service na, then the
story telling portion ended. We didn’t get the chance to eat our lunch in the
quarter as planned `coz the service arrive earlier than expected. We first
stroll in SM Bacolod for 1 1/2 hours i think before we go home. Nung sinabihan
ko si Jelly na andun kami sa SM parang nagalit xa sken kasi sana daw di daw muna
siya umalis papuntang Himamaylan para magkita kami. haha. Di ko naman alam na
mapapaaga ang uwi nmin eh. Well anyways, the issue was resolved naman eh.
Maunawain kasi ang Jelly kong un. We arrived in our destination in the late
afternoon, at past 3 na ata un. Akala ko we’re going home na but I suggested na
kumain muna kami ng halo-halo, ang init kasi eh. All agreed nman, liban dun sa
ibang nauna nang umuwi samin. Kumain kami sa mall ng halo-halo with my mom,
nilibre daw ba ako.. hehe. Tas aun, we go home nah. Hay, all in all, the trip
was fun!
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21
March
2008
Time flies so fast that we could not run after it! This line is once again proven when my grandmother (though she wasn’t my relative:they used to be our neighbor) past away. I just dont know when exactly `coz I just received a text from my aunt saying just this morning saying that she past away but when I asked her when she didn’t reply. Ang daming nangyari this week, kagabi ang saya-saya ko in our confe. I was about to go to sleep when a friend of mine who used to be my suitor texted me. Actually, he’s been texting me for ten months now (last March 16 if I’m not mistaken) saying that he’s been suffering for an illness. Di nya sinabi kung ano un, lam mo when he said that parang gumuho ang mundo ko. Ung tipong tatanungin mo ang sarili mo bat nangyayari un. He’ve been there for me through thick and thin, ups and down. Matagal na siyang nanliligaw pero di ko pa rin sinasagot. Naawa ako sa kanya, as in.. sobrah. Gusto kong sa `kin nalang nangyari un. I kept on asking myself why of all the people, he was given that illness. Di naman siya masama, infact siya ang taong mas gugustuhin niyang siya ang magdusa wag lang ang mahal nya. Sana ako nalang ang nagkaganun, late na nga akong nakatulog kagabi dahill nagtetext pa kami, past 3 A.M na ata un. I just can’t help my tears from falling down my cheeks. Sana naman, sa akin nalang nangyari un at di kay Ace ko.
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